Hi friends, these ideas are the advice of Sanhedrin Initiative Advisors as we incorporate jewish and Chinese wisdom, I'd like to thank our Sanhedrin Advisor Mr. Shawn Lei for sharing his professional opinion as well as bringing his mentor to advise on this.
The main issue we address below is passionate and energetic behavior beyond the scope of the accepted norm, which has a chance of loosing control.
We refer to this as a imbalance of too much "fire" (out of the 4 elements of fire water air and earth).
We ddress this reality with "grounding" (Temple = Beit Hamikdash) and adding water to "calm the fire". Yet we take care not to extinguish the flame, as all men need their "fire" to guide them.
We are not here to interfere with our fellow human beings, rather we will attempt to stir clear of the true doctor at work "I am Hashem your healer" and create a viod of humility and respect for Hashem's Shchina to engolf us and Hashem to heal us.
With blessings of healing and good wishes.
Yosef.
Emotional Coddling vs. Practical Execution: A Path to Healing
Healing requires more than just emotional validation—it demands action.
Many people struggle with distress, whether from mania, emotional instability, or external difficulties, but remain stuck because they receive too much emotional coddling rather than guidance toward practical execution.
This guide will break down the steps to transition from emotional distress to stability through practical action, particularly for those dealing with "Liver Fire" (mania, anger, hyperactivity).
1. Emotional Coddling vs. Practical Execution
What is Emotional Coddling?
Emotional coddling refers to excessive comforting and validation without offering real solutions.
While understanding and empathy are important, constantly reaffirming someone’s emotions without pushing them toward solutions can reinforce distress rather than resolve it.
Examples of Emotional Coddling:✔ “I totally understand, that’s so hard.”✔ “You’re right to feel this way.”✔ “You shouldn’t have to deal with this.”
Why This Is a Problem:
While these statements provide temporary relief, they can make a person dependent on emotional validation instead of focusing on solutions.
If someone is overwhelmed, continuously dwelling on emotions can make them feel powerless instead of guiding them toward action.
2. Shifting from Emotional Coddling to Practical Execution
The solution is practical execution—helping a person channel their emotions into action.
Step 1: Identify the Root Problem
Instead of focusing on how bad something feels, identify the specific issue that needs to be addressed.
Example:
Instead of saying “I feel so restless, nothing makes sense,”
Reframe it as “I haven’t been sleeping properly, my diet is bad, and I have no routine.”
✅ Solution: Focus on fixing sleep, diet, and routine instead of just complaining about restlessness.
Step 2: Move Toward Actionable Solutions
For Mania (Excess Energy, Restlessness, Liver Fire):
Instead of sympathizing with their restlessness, encourage:
Structured schedules – Set specific wake-up and sleep times.
Sleep regulation – Reduce screen time before bed, avoid stimulants, and create a calming bedtime routine.
Proper nutrition – Cut out excess sugar, alcohol, and processed foods; focus on liver-cooling foods (grapefruit, potatoes, soup).
For Emotional Issues (Depression, Anxiety, Emotional Exhaustion):
Instead of indulging in endless emotional discussions, encourage:
Realistic coping strategies – Exercise, journaling, learning something new.
Taking small steps – Setting daily achievable goals to break stagnation.
Seeking proper guidance – Professional help, a mentor, or religious/spiritual counseling.
For External Problems (Financial Struggles, Relationship Issues, Career Setbacks):
Instead of dwelling on how unfair life is, focus on what can be done now:
Making necessary calls – Contact the right people for work, finances, or relationship advice.
Taking direct action – Filling out applications, researching solutions, or learning a new skill.
Reframing the Conversation:
Instead of “That’s terrible, I feel for you,” say “What’s one thing we can do to fix this right now?”
Instead of validating self-pity, say “Here’s how we can move forward.”
3. Addressing "Liver Fire" (Mania, Anger, Hyperactivity)
People with manic tendencies or rage often experience Liver Fire—excess energy caused by overstimulation, stress, or poor physical health. This can manifest as:
✔ Uncontrolled anger or aggression
✔ Restlessness or hyperactivity
✔ Impulsive decisions
✔ Feeling emotionally overwhelmed
The key to calming Liver Fire is bringing down heat and excess energy through grounding and balance.
Step 1: Grounding Techniques
Fire needs a container. Grounding helps stabilize excessive energy.
Wear grounding objects – A Silver Temple Coin Necklace can help stabilize emotions.
Start a rock collection – Holding, organizing, or touching stones helps connect with physical reality.
Dressing neatly – A button-down shirt, suit, and black dress pants create a sense of order and discipline.
Speaking calmly – A low, respectful tone reduces unnecessary conflict and helps maintain composure.
Step 2: Dietary Healing
Certain foods and drinks can fuel anger or cool the liver fire.
Foods that Increase Fire (Avoid These):
❌ Alcohol (inflames the liver, increases anger)
❌ Spicy and greasy foods (increase internal heat)
❌ Excessive sugar (causes energy spikes and crashes)
Foods that Cool Liver Fire (Eat More of These):
✅ Lemon, Honey Tea - Detoxifies & warms heart
✅ Grapefruit – Detoxifies and cools the liver
✅ Potatoes – Stabilizes energy
✅ Soup and hydrating foods – Helps flush out toxins
✅ Water – Drink regularly to stay hydrated and prevent energy imbalance.
Step 3: Energy Healing and Self-Regulation
Breathing exercises – Deep, slow breaths help bring down excessive fire.
Reiki (Japanese Healing Method) – If done correctly, it can be highly effective, but finding a skilled practitioner is key.
Faith-Based Healing – All healing ultimately comes from Hashem (G-d). The goal is to remove internal blockages so divine healing can occur.
4. The Bigger Picture: Stability and Personal Responsibility
While freedom of expression is important, unchecked emotional instability can lead to unnecessary problems in personal and social life.
Stability comes from:
✔ Self-discipline (dressing well, speaking calmly)
✔ Controlling impulses (not reacting in anger, thinking before acting)
✔ Focusing on solutions, not problems
5. Final Self-Help Action Plan
For someone dealing with mania, rage, or emotional distress, follow these practical steps:
Daily Routine for Stability
1️⃣ Wake up and sleep at the same time daily – Stability starts with routine.
2️⃣ Eat grounding foods – Avoid alcohol, drink water, and eat cooling foods.
3️⃣ Wear grounding objects – Silver jewelry, stones, or meaningful items.
4️⃣ Keep a rock collection – Physical grounding can reduce mental overload.
5️⃣ Speak slowly and calmly – Avoid heated discussions or impulsive speech.
6️⃣ Engage in structured activities – Work, study, or hobbies that require focus.
7️⃣ Take small, actionable steps daily – Progress happens in steps, not in leaps.
Final Thought: Healing Through Practical Action
Healing is about balance.
Emotional validation alone is not enough—it must be paired with tangible actions that bring stability and progress.
By focusing on solutions, regulating emotions, and channeling energy productively, anyone can move from distress to stability.
The key is not just feeling better—but actually getting better.
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